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Now I will give you the answer to this fundamental question, so sit back.

For a happy marriage, it is important that people match each other. And that they both be mature, worthy people.

That's it, that's the whole secret of a happy relationship. They did not expect?

Dear girls, this was only partly a joke. To build a strong and loving family, you need to build it with a worthy man. No half measures. No "He'll get better!" or “I can make it better!”. No, that's not how it works. Moreover, worthy does not mean successful, rich, realized. Of course, this does not contradict the word "worthy", but this is not the main characteristic.

A worthy man recognizes and realizes that a relationship with a woman calls for a certain responsibility. And he is ready to bear this responsibility. He is ready to be not just an earner, but also to be honest, capable of conversation, emotionally stable. O is working on himself and on making your life better.

He does not lie, does not create a world of illusions, next to him you are not anxious, he does not ignore your requests and needs.

Such a man can become a reliable, loving, caring husband, next to whom you will feel happiness and security.

But where can you find this? How? And how to make him not only pay attention to you, but also want to build a family with you?

Hello. I do not know what to do. My husband and I have been married for 12 years, we have children, but the relationship has cooled. We live like neighbors, you can't say otherwise. I don't know whether to try to save this relationship, to fix it somehow, or it's time for a divorce. I love him, but this life is already tired!

Answer:

A lot depends on how your husband and you yourself behave. Most couples face this situation. Over time, passion and falling in love pass, and many couples slide into simple cohabitation, everyday life.

I see no indication in the message that the man is behaving unworthily. If so, then the relationship is definitely not worth saving. If he is an alcoholic, an abuser, a gamer, if he humiliates you, he hurts you. This cannot be tolerated, especially when there are children in the family. They feel everything, they understand a lot. Thus, the woman not only becomes traumatized herself, but also dooms her children to it.

But! If the whole problem lies only in subsided emotions, I do not think that this is a reason for divorce. It would be much better and more logical to go to a family therapist and try to save this relationship. Maybe you lack the foundation in the form of acceptance and conscious perception of a partner. Maybe you both stopped trying to surprise each other. In any case, if both partners behave with dignity, there is always a chance to save the relationship. And they need to be used.

Because even if you go into a new relationship after that, all your psychological and behavioral characteristics will not go anywhere. You'll just run into the same thing after a while.

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